If your holiday wish list includes troll bait and trauma triggers, congratulations! The increasingly ironically named Good Men Project is your new Santa Claus.
Two weeks ago, the Project published a story by Alyssa Royse with the provocative title “Nice Guys Commit Rape Too,” a tale in which the Royse’s friend had been accused of the crime. Royse says she “had watched the woman in question flirt aggressively with my friend for weeks. I had watched her sit on his lap, dance with him, twirl his hair in her fingers. I had seen her at parties discussing the various kinds of sex work she had done, and the pleasure with which she explored her own very fluid sexuality.”
And so, even though he went ahead and penetrated her while she was sleeping and ultimately “learned a hard lesson: He had committed rape,” the real takeaway problem here is “that no one is taking responsibility for the mixed messages about sex and sexuality.” Feministe later described the piece as “the worst thing I have read about rape all year — and that’s including the GOP’s pre-election bout of Rape Philosophy.” But that was before this week.